Need Clarity When Making a Decision?

Have you ever felt confused, frustrated and stuck when trying to make a decision?

Like when you need to make a decision but you just can’t?

You can’t because you feel you don’t have enough information to make a good decision. Or you can’t because there’s multiple good options before you and you don’t know which one you should choose. There’s a lack of clarity.

I’ve experienced this time and time again, especially since I began my entrepreneurial journey – which requires constant decision making on the daily.

One afternoon, I visited a local blogger friend’s home so we could chat about business and life. I was confused about a new business opportunity. Should I take the opportunity? How will it affect my current business and family life? I didn’t know the answers. Sometimes there’s no way to know the answers except by just making a choice and seeing how it goes. It’s the normal risk that comes with making decisions.

But there’s also another way…using your intuition.

As I was chatting with her, all of a sudden, my mind cleared and I spoke my own answer:

“Sometimes it’s hard to know which way you’re feeling. The no/unsure feeling about a direction or decision you need to take. Are you feeling unsure or are you getting a “no” answer because of your ego, self limiting belief?

Is this feeling coming from my intuition?

Instead of being stuck in the decision, I just need to focus on what I do know feels like a “yes” in my life.

What feels like a “heck yes” for me right now?

Focus on that “heck yes” area until I receive answers on the other topic I’m unclear about.”

Sometimes when we are staring so hard at a decision or topic, we are too close to be able to understand. Diverting your attention to something else helps you to release your grip on it. It helps open yourself up to receiving information about it when you take a temporary pause. This allows space for the answers to come when your logic and preconceived notions about it are are no longer actively blocking your clarity.

That’s when it’s a good idea to focus on the things that do feel like a “yes” in your life (or in my case, my business). When you continue to flow with the things that you already know feel like a yes, that light you up and feel at peace with, you relax out of the MUST KNOW NOW mode, which is fear and lack.

Sometimes it just takes time to get the clarity on a decision and it’s a lot nicer to wait through the uncertainty when you focus on the things that you are certain of.

Another strategy to getting clear about a decision is to give yourself permission to play.

Take a Play Day To Find Answers

What is something that you’ve been longing to do lately that you’ve been too busy to do, or that you don’t allow yourself permission to do because of judgements about the activity?

This is your inner child, needing attention, needing a break, needing time to play. Our inner child is also closely tied with our higher self. Our higher self already knows the answer that we’re seeking but we sometimes don’t allow ourselves to hear what our higher self is telling us. When we connect with our inner child through playfulness, we tune back to ourselves and tap back into our higher self…where the answer lies.

What is a Play Day?

Taking a play day means taking time to do what your soul is longing for. It can be things that are so simple that it feels ridiculous or so minute that you wonder whether or not doing them would even create an effective change.

Don’t judge the activity or the type of play that you’re craving. The activity is just the vehicle to get you back in tune with you, where you show up for your inner child, saying, “I hear you. I see you’re wanting this.” Your inner child wants to feel seen, heard and loved. Having a play day helps them feel this.

A play day also raises your vibration, your energetic frequency, as you do something that brings you joy. It also gets us into our right side of our brain and out of our left brain – the logical, rational thinking side of the brain. Our right side of our brain is where we access our imagination and creativity. Our intuitive hits or guidance, can easily be dismissed because it feels like you’re just “imagining things or making things up”. That’s because we receive the intuition through the right side of the brain, where our imagination lives. So of course it’s going to feel like we’re making it up.

When you create an environment where you raise your vibration and activate your right-side of the brain through play, you are heightening your access to your intuition, where you can get clear answers. But remember, just because they’re clear answers, doesn’t mean that they will always make sense. Spoiler alert, often our answers won’t make logical sense.

At least they don’t make sense yet. These are the kind of answers that usually require faith and action before they’ll make sense. But the more you practice acting on your intuition, the stronger the faith muscle gets and the less resistance you’ll have to following the guidance you’re receiving which will always be for your highest good. Our intuition isn’t there to punish us or lead us astray, so don’t be afraid of taking action on the answers you receive.

Play Day Ideas

Try creating a list for yourself of what truly feels like fun, lights you up, makes you excited, or makes you want to weep with relief when you give yourself permission to do it. This is truly unique to you and will look different from another person. Nothing is too small or silly or insignificant. It matters to you and that’s all that matters.

In case you need a few play day ideas, to get you going:

• Ride a bike
• Color in a coloring book or draw with markers
• Put a puzzle together
• Dance to your favorite tunes in your house
• Play with Legos
• Play a musical instrument
• Play pretend with a little kid
• Eat your favorite childhood meal
• Swing in a hammock
• Visit the zoo
• Go to a museum
• Get a massage
• Sign up for dance classes
• Read a book
• Take a pottery class
• Paint by numbers
• Smelling flowers on a walk
• Look for seashells at the beach
• Sit by a waterfall, listen and watch the water
• Create something
• Play with a pet